BEING A FAUJI’S FATHER

If you have ever voted in any election in India, you are familiar with how they mark your index finger, extending from lower part of nail to skin of the finger, with indelible ink. This ink is produced in a company called Mysore Paints and Varnish Limited, the only company in India authorised to do so. After about 30 to 40 days, there is no trace of this indelible ink left and you are ready to vote again. Joining politics (or for that matter any other profession) has, at best, that so called indelible mark that stays a short time and then you are ready to be a turncoat and align your thinking and conduct with some other vocation.

However, one truly indelible ink is the one with which you are pronounced a fauji. It stays with you forever. Your mannerism, style, conduct and even way of thinking undergo permanent and indelible changes. You are not the same person anymore. As was penned by Rudyard Kipling in his famous poem ‘If’, the day you become a fauji, you suddenly become a man:

If you can keep your head when all about you
Are losing theirs and blaming it on you,
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
But make allowance for their doubting too;
If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
Or being lied about, don’t deal in lies,
Or being hated, don’t give way to hating,
And yet don’t look too good, nor talk too wise:
…………………..
…………………..
And—which is more—you’ll be a Man, my son!

Son? Many a times I view things from my father’s point of view; how it must have been for him to send me to fauj knowing (I know that he knew) that, like those planes on trans-Atlantic flights, once I cross over that crucial point-of-no-return, I am gone forever. He knew that he was not sending me to a new profession, but a new life, family and world.

As I penned in ‘Indian Navy Is The Only Life That I Have Known Or Seen’, it is a totally different life, family and world. Even after you hang your uniform and boots (so as to say), you are left with only one way of problem solving, reacting and dealing with anything at all. I have spent, for example, nearly six years in India’s largest corporate company and even those six years didn’t change the way I dealt with problems. On the other hand, I applied fauji solutions to everything, albeit with a little modification.

My dad never joined the armed forces but for all practical purposes he was a fauji. I remember during my boyhood days, my sister and I were always in constant fear of him. Whenever we would hear his Monga (a German vehicle just like the Army Jonga) approaching (in the silence of the hills the engine noise of the Monga was distinct), we would be like dahine-se-sajj (by the right, dress). As soon as he would be with us, the inquisition would commence starting with if we read the newspaper; and, if we did, what was the national and international news.

He was also punctual like a fauji and always kept appointments dot on time. During my sister’s marriage, for example, he nearly cancelled the time when the baraat (marriage party) didn’t reach on time. Our relatives had tough time calming him down with “kudi daa maamla hai” (It is your daughter’s life).

LIke a fauji he was forever young (jawan) and physically fit.

But, the foremost manner in which he was like a fauji was his problem solving abilities and those related to quickly getting to the core of the matter rather than beating around the bush. The other day a senior colleague wrote a piece in one of the publications about how Indians keep discussing problems and solutions but never get to implementation of any of them. Dad was different. He would do before you could count till ten and in many cases, like a typical Punjabi, do the thinking later.

So, after my initial training in the Naval Academy at Cochin (now Kochi), I joined the Cadet Training Ship INS Delhi. I was excited because it was a dream come true to be finally on board an Indian Naval Ship. To give him credit, dad had tried his utmost to stall my becoming a fauji. He constantly bombarded me with how he was preparing me to become an IAS/IFS officer and that sane, intelligent and respectable people should steer clear of becoming fauji. Dad didn’t succeed and I eventually became what I wanted to become: an Indian Navy officer. However, the present leadership of the country and the current attitude of our countrymen are now succeeding to keep as many young men and women from joining the armed forces as they can with their relentless indifference and disrespect.

Anyway, after the tough routine of my first day on the cruiser Delhi, I burnt the midnight oil in writing to him a detailed letter about how my dream had finally come true.

I wrote about the history of Delhi. I wrote that when she was with the British, she was named HMS Achilles and had taken part in the famous Battle of the River Plate (close to Argentina) with HMS Ajax and HMS Exeter (a battle in which they were pitted against the might Admiral Graf Spee and others). I wrote that in 1948 she joined the Indian Navy as first HMIS Delhi and then INS Delhi on India becoming a republic on 26th Jan 1950. I wrote that she starred in the 1956 movie ‘The Battle of the River Plate’ with John Gregson, Anthony Quayle, and Peter Finch. I wrote that whilst I was in the Naval Academy at Cochin, on one of the afternoons I had seen the movie. I recounted an interesting anecdote that in one of the aerial shoots, the complete scene of Delhi as Achilles was shot with the other ships when the Director Michael Powell frantically asked for the scene to be done again. It was because even though all hatches were kept closed, at the crucial moment, one Sikh sailor emerged from one of the hatches complete with beard and turban.

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INS Delhi was HMNZS Achilles earlier

I also described the 6 – guns of the ship and how she helped to liberate Goa on 18th Dec 1961. I wrote about walking on the quarterdeck of the ship whereat history invariably walked with me and my chest exceeded (in later years, Narendra Modi’s) 56 inches when I walked past the 6 – inch guns with their brass plaque describing the famous battles she had fought and won.

I described the forever humming of the engines and the generators and my bunk in the cadet’s mess. Whilst describing the ship in relation to me, I even quoted the poet:

The guns you fired were my guns,
And the lives you lived were mine

The arrival of this letter at our house Whispering Winds, Kandaghat was described to me by my mom. After dinner, dad and mom slipped into the bed and dad (as he was wont to do) asked my mom to read the son’s letter to him. She read slowly and deliberately all the way from Dear Dad to …….. lives you lived were mine ….. with lots and love and regards to mom and you….yours affectionately Ravi.

My dad pleading with the then PM Moraji Desai to get his son out of the Navy!
My dad pleading with the then PM Moraji Desai to get his son out of the Navy!

After she had finished, dad lay there thinking for sometime and then asked her to read the letter all over again. Mom, thinking that dad had made peace with my having become a fauji and was full of deep fatherly love and high respect for the history and heritage of the Indian Navy, read it the second time, more slowly and and with added emphasis. After finishing she awaited his response. And sure enough, the response came. This was it:

“Kinne paise mang rehya hai?” (How much money is he asking for?)

PS: If dad was the Finance Minister of NaMo, instead of Arun Jaitley, the faujis won’t have to beg on their knees endlessly for OROP.

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16 Comments

  1. First of all . much delighted to see your DEAR FATHER ,dressed so well and looking so smart a Sikh.

    Unique narration Sir . Quite poetical way of dong things . If a poet has once decided to make comparison between indelible ink used in election works and what the Fauz imprints on one’s mind , then none can stop him because has hundreds of reasons for doing that . What is there in the write- up ? Is it about how to live on with those indelible changes caused by the Fauz or is it a letter from a Fauzee to his father who is not so happy or sad on his son’s being joined Fauz ….. cz for him …. ye sab ikkoh hii gall hundi aei , however vigilant enough to help him financially. And one might say this is all about a great Indian Naval Ship with very bright history and which is Hero both in reel and real life as she shot both in battles and movie. Great write – up with so many thought processed edited artistically.

    1. Thank you Jaswant. I quite loved my father even though I feared him. Before I was old enough to tell him that I loved him, he died in a jeep accident at the age of 56 years. I can only relive memories of his soft heart in a stern outer shell.

      1. Sir allow me to say this, I am sure your father must be smiling up there are telling that ” Munda siyana ho gaya hai”.

        Also we shall be waiting for cuckoos’s nest part two!

  2. Sir, your poets always carry a msg of inner feeling and sense of humour in it, be it family, fauj, corporate or nation.

  3. A fantastic peace of your personal and professional history.A real treasure .For me it brings back many nostalgic memories of yesteryears . I was the Navigating Officer of the erswhile INS DELHI with my favorite naval office Ronnie Pereira in command in 1966. Yes the fauji is a fauji all his life .After my retirment in 1987 i spent a wonderful 16 years in the corporate world at the seniormost positions where I “ran those ships” pure Navy style” with great success .
    We have another thing in common – you belong to Kandaghat and we have a lovely Airforce Navy resort in Kandaghat .Must meet some day .
    God bless .
    Love to Marilyn and yourself .
    Commodore T S Khurana, NM

    1. It is veritable honour for me Cmde Khurana Sir to receive a comment on my blog by someone as respected and senior as you.

      You can take a navy man out from the sea but you can’t take the sea out of him. Sir, I intend dividing my time equally between Mumbai and Kandaghat. Hence the chances of our meeting in Kandaghat are even greater now.

      Thank you and regards.

  4. An excellent account written with all the fervour of a Naval Officer!
    It was an excellent reading,though one was aware of INS Delhi’s illustrious past,having been in Naval wing of NCC in School- From a Pongo.

      1. Dear Ravi, enjoyed reading your blog though a little late, I was caught up doing other things including travelling. My dad being an fauji himself wasn’t happy my joining the fauj perhaps because he felt that our nation and netas and don’t give the respect to the fauj which it so richly deserves. Also because my elder brother was already in fauj.
        I too have very fond memories of INS Delhi especially of holy stoning the QD every Sunday when everyone was going on liberty and little Lt CJ Singh kicking our backsides for not doing it to his high standard of perfection. But what a great service; I am today what the Navy has given me in my 28 years of beautifully, professionally satisfying and honourable years of my life.
        Happy that my son did short service in the Navy and gained so much from it and became a man and now my son in law continuing to make me feel as part of the beautiful service.
        Best of luck in your retirement years but I am sure you will be looking for a third career like me; fauji kabhi retire nahin hota! My salute to your dad for being a true fauji, sad you lost him so early!! God bless.

        1. Thank you very much Sandhu Sir for your thoughtful and straight from the heart comments.

          I am already into delivering talks on leadership and motivational subjects. These and my writings would keep me busy.

          Regards